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Why Being Inspired is Better Than Being Motivated

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Why Being Inspired is Better Than Being Motivated

Are you motivated or are you inspired? While these things may seem like the same thing, they are not – and they have big implications for your success.

In my own life, when I feel inspired to do or accomplish something no obstacle can stand in my way. I do not need lots of encouragement from others, do not need immediate wins to validate my course of action, and am not deterred in the face of temporary setbacks, delays, or failures. I know I will succeed or die trying.

Now compare this to motivation.

If I’m feeling motivated but not inspired, I might initially bring enthusiasm to a goal or task I’m working on but I need others to feed me. I need external validation, I need to see progress right away, and I get easily frustrated or discouraged if things are not going the way I hope- even for short periods of time.

This is one of the reasons why my New Year’s resolutions – and perhaps your own – are usually only temporary. They’re temporary because we’re motivated to make a change but not necessarily inspired to. With motivation, we can usually only bring change into our lives under very specific and ideal circumstances.

You see, motivation is all about doing things we know we should do, but not things we must do. It is all about begrudgingly convincing ourselves to do things we think we have to do. As a result, there is no long-lasting excitement, energy, or follow-through.

On the flip side, inspiration is all about doing things we must do. It is all about doing things we like and will do regardless of timing or circumstance. With inspiration, we don’t have to convince ourselves to do something, we just do it. Change comes naturally because we force it onto our circumstances through our enduring energy and excitement.

Throughout history, we know inspiration is the ingredient that has guided our greatest leaders and change agents. When they birthed ideas and innovations and revolutions, they did not do it because they were simply motivated. They did it because they were inspired. There was a look in their eye, a fire in their heart, a pep in their step that bent reality in their direction because of their unstoppable beliefs in themselves or cause.

For us, we can also bend reality in our direction when we’re inspired. When we do, we’ll achieve exponentially more than if we’re only motivated. But the key question is, how do we do this? How do we become more inspired so that we can be more successful? Here are just a few things we can do:

  1. We can read more about people that inspire us. The more we learn about inspirational people, the more we’re going to want to not only celebrate these people but also emulate them. Every inspired person, for example, will always tell you about the heroes they have read about and look up to – and how these heroes inspired them to take action. Elon Musk’s admiration of Tesla the man is just one example.
  1. We can cut off more distractions. We can get serious about consuming less of the news, less of television, and less of the people in our lives who aren’t inspired to do anything meaningful. This will be half the battle to becoming more inspired as we won’t be distracted by things that don’t give us energy to focus and accomplish our goals.
  1. We can design our free time around our inspirations and not just conveniences. Instead of Netflix and chill – and instead of filling our time with traditional social activities – we can choose to instead write the book that is in our hearts, create the podcast that needs to get out into the world, or build the thing that is burning inside of us. 

While there are other ways to bring more inspiration to our lives, these things will empower us to focus more clearly on the things that are important to us and get them done so that we can be more successful than ever before. These things will give us the long-term inspirational fuel that motivation just can’t provide.

Dr. Rob Carpenter - known simply as “Dr. Rob” - is a transformational author, filmmaker, and CEO whose mission is to entertain, empower, and uplift people and humanity.

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Why We Should All Be More Humble – Part 2 (Leaving Behind the “Me-First” Focus)

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Why We Should All Be More Humble – Part 2 (Leaving Behind the “Me-First” Focus)

Although most of us truly admire others who have mastered humility, it can be difficult to be more humble ourselves. It’s difficult because we’re human and we have insecurities. It’s difficult because our emotions change from day to day. And it’s difficult because most of society seems to reward people socially and financially who don’t seem humble at all, so we naturally pursue status-seeking behaviors that we think will make us more successful.

While all of this is understandable, the behaviors we engage in for day-to-day survival and success have made us more unhappy and stressed out. These behaviors have left us with lower self-esteem and less respect for others. And these behaviors have trapped us in a seesaw of desperate insecurity and runaway pride.

This seesaw manifests itself most often when we develop an “I’ll show them” attitude by trying to prove things to people to either get their acceptance, prove them wrong, or show off. We have this attitude because we don’t feel good about ourselves so in order to make ourselves feel better we are driven to take steps to try to cause other people to think about us in a certain way.

We want them to think we’re attractive, smart, successful, and popular or at least socially accepted by whatever tribe is most important to us. We subconsciously (and sometimes consciously) want them to think of us not as who we actually are, but rather as the image or identity we have crafted for ourselves. And when they do start to think of us a certain way (in the way that we want), our insecure egos are validated – and often inflate like a hot air balloon depending on how much they’re being stroked. 

I don’t say all of these things to condemn us – I myself have been in this place of wanting people to think of me in very certain ways. I say these things to point out the fact that in most of the interactions we have with other people, we’re often only thinking about ourselves. How I am being perceived. How I am feeling. How I am being validated. It’s all about “me first,” “me-primarily,” and for some, “me-only.”

But very little of our time goes into thinking about other people and how they feel- how to give them encouragement, how to reassure them that they are loved and accepted by us (outside of their looks, possessions, status, or success), and how we can help them improve their lives. Very little of our time goes to lifting others up – without feeling superior to them, inconvenienced by them, or without constantly comparing ourselves to them.

But there is good news for us to break out of this – if we really want to.

If we decide to shift from an I focus to a them focus something inside of us will change. The mix of insecurity and pride within us will start to be replaced by a focus on compassion for others. We will become less concerned with how we look to others or how successful we are – and more concerned with how we can contribute to making other people’s lives better. 

We will start to become more teachable – the best trait of humble people- not for the purposes of self-aggrandizement or short-term success, but simply to become better versions of ourselves so we can help more people.

When we experience this shift inside of us, we will realize that the things we thought mattered the most (looks, money, acceptance and validation) were just distractions designed to make us anxious and stressed out and keep us from experiencing all of the benefits humility has to offer ourselves – and others.

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Why We Should All Be More Humble – Part 1

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Why We Should All Be More Humble – Part 1

Have you ever met a truly humble person? Not somebody who HAD TO BE humble because of their circumstances, but somebody who CHOSE TO BE? Not somebody who was pretending false modesty but somebody who was genuinely selfless?

Nearly 10 years ago I met such a person – and I was in complete awe. I had gone to a big event this young person was the host of. I had never met (or heard of) this person before but when I shook their hand at the end of the event, something felt different. It didn’t feel like it was a normal transactional handshake. It didn’t feel like just another polite interaction either. It felt different, somehow.

So I went back to another event this person hosted. I got the same feeling. And I kept getting this feeling over and over again the more I met this person at their events. But I didn’t know why I was feeling the way I was. What was it about them that made me almost physically feel their aura of humility and compassion?

I didn’t find my answer until the day I realized that the person I met had founded one of the largest anti-human trafficking organizations in the United States. He had also founded the largest food bank in Los Angeles. And the largest anti-gang outreach program there. He had literally personally saved and transformed thousands of lives that were on the brink of destruction. But if you spoke to him, you would never know it. Why? Because when you met him he spent 100% of his time focused on YOU – how you were feeling, if you were having a good day, if he could help you in any way.

Oozing out of him was compassion and sincerity. Oozing out of him was supreme authenticity. Oozing out of him was so little regard for himself that it was awe-inspiring to me.

In today’s society, though, this type of person is rare. This type of behavior is rare. This type of humility is rare. Why? Because we’re not taught it. We don’t see it modeled enough.

What are we taught instead? We’re taught to humble brag about our accomplishments, we’re taught to increase our social media likes and popularity, we’re taught to market ourselves and be a brand. We’re taught this is the way to be successful. So we do it.

And while we run toward success and validation, we don’t stop to think about humility. We don’t stop to think about what it means or why it’s important. We don’t stop to think about how it can improve our lives – or the lives of others. 

You see, humility is seeing yourself the way God sees you – as one person playing a small part in a grand opera. Humility is recognizing that others are equal to you – not less than or better than you. Humility is understanding that you were sent here to help others and solve problems for them – not just become comfortable, rich, insta-famous, or successful. Humility is knowing that life is about serving, learning, growing, and contributing to a global body of love that is running on empty right now. This is what humility is.

Our society doesn’t know what humility is because it doesn’t fully know what love is, what compassion is, what commitment to others is. But it can.

In part 2 of this series, we’ll explore how we can all start to personally embrace humility, the benefits we’ll experience when we do, and how this new approach will bring the healing we have been looking for in our own lives- and the healing the world has long been looking for, too. 

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Yes That’s Cool, But It’s Not Purposeful

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Yes That’s Cool, But It’s Not Purposeful

Early on in my career I was attracted to projects that I call “cool but not purposeful.” But what do I mean by this?

Cool but not purposeful is when we seek a goal because it looks good, not because we deeply believe in it. Cool but not purposeful is when we do things to impress others, but not really because we want to empower them. Cool but not purposeful is when we build up facades for ourselves because we are afraid to be the real us.

For me, there was a time in life I was seeking out degrees and projects and organizations that looked cool for me to have or be associated with, but deep down didn’t develop me into the kind of purposeful person I knew I needed to become. 

Here’s a concrete example of this. In my very early 20s, I had thought up a cool (or silly)  idea for a tech startup that I felt I could easily pitch, build, and sell off within a matter of months or a few years. So I raised investor money (I secured it on the first pitch), launched the software, and in less than 4 years sold the company. I was in lots of press publications and got tons of applause, but in reality it didn’t bring me much satisfaction because I knew the idea wasn’t the most purposeful thing I could have given my time to.

Yes, my idea provided some value. Yes, it employed people and serviced lots of customers. And yes, I accomplished many of my then professional goals with it. But I was working on this cool idea, in part, for the wrong reasons.

Now don’t get me wrong: I wasn’t doing it for nefarious reasons. But I was doing it to some degree because it looked impressive to have my own company and not because I felt this idea was what I wanted to be remembered for. I was doing it because, underneath it all, I had a mixture of insecurity and pride that I felt would be validated by this company. I was doing it because I was afraid to be the real me – not just the impressive, highly credentialed me who could dominate just like Alexander the Great, but the humble me who wanted to impart wisdom and purpose to the world that I felt desperately needed it. 

The point of all of this is not that we can’t have mixed motives (wanting to be respected and successful is a good thing). And that point is not that we can’t pursue cool (or even silly) ideas, especially ones that can be validated by the market. The point is that we should ask ourselves if the cool ideas we are pursuing are the things we should be devoting our time to – or if there are other more purposeful things we should be devoting our time to. 

In my several decades on the earth so far, I’ve seen lots of very smart people run to Silicon Valley, Wall Street, and Hollywood to pursue vanity (silly ideas, money, or fame) and not deep purpose. I’ve seen thousands of young people wanting to be social media “influencers” but not really knowing who or what they want to influence – and not really having anything meaningful to say. I’ve seen a whole generation of people more interested in cool things – cool tech, silly memes, and hashtags – than in asking themselves how they could be strategically using their limited time to improve the world. 

But again, the point is not to bash cool or fun things. The point is to highlight that we shouldn’t let cool things be SUBSTITUTES for purposeful things. And we shouldn’t let cool things distract us from being who we’re authentically meant to be (not just the fake online personas (aka “brands”) society tells us to be. We should seek to make everything we do purposeful – and if it happens to be cool on top of that, well then that’s cool. 

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